-- You feel obligated to please everyone, otherwise you'd feel guilty and anxious.
-- You are afraid people might not like/love you anymore if you say NO to them.
-- You (almost) always say yes to other people's requests, sometimes at the cost of your other priorities (time for yourself, time with your family, other activities you would like to pursue, your physical and mental wellbeing, etc).
-- You keep taking on more and more responsibilities and obligations, until you run yourself down, all because you couldn't say NO.
-- You pride yourself as being nice, supportive, generous, helpful, THE "Go-To" gal or guy, etc. -- EVEN THOUGH you can see that not being able to say NO has caused you problems in your personal life, your relationships, your career, etc.
-- Or, maybe you are so stressed out, burned out, feeling resentful, or feeling like a doormat, and wish you could JUST SAY NO sometimes.
Chances are, either you can relate to some of the above statements, or you know someone just like that!
Many people have difficulty saying NO at some level. The thing is, you might not be aware of the depth of the consequences of not being able to say NO.
When you cannot say NO, it doesn't just cost you your time and energy. So what you signed up for something you don't want/like to do? You wasted some time and energy. No big deal, right?
Wrong. It goes much deeper than that.
When you say YES to something, you are saying NO to something else. So, when you sign up to do something that doesn't align with your core values, interest, purpose and priorities, you are saying NO to other MORE important (or enjoyable) things that you could've been doing INSTEAD. It's a double whammy.
Think for a moment about the consequences when you regularly CHOOSE (willingly or not) other people's requests/needs over YOUR own needs/priorities/values. What kind of negative impact would this behavior pattern do to your life, your family, your career? How about your self-esteem? What kind of message are you sending to YOURSELF and people around you? How about your children (if you're a parent)? What kind of example are you setting for them? Is this what you want?
So, my question to you is: Can you really afford not to learn how to say NO?
Please join me for my live workshop and Teleclass "Learning to say NO so you can say YES to your life".
There's still time to sign up. The FREE Teleclass is on TOMORROW, so is the deadline to register for the live workshop on Sunday.
Please feel free to pass on this invitation to your circle of friends, family, colleagues, students, clients, etc.
To sign up for live workshop on Sunday:
Visit http://www.sixdegrees06.com/whatsnew.html#saynows for details
Registration required by 12/08/06, in order to receive your worksheets
To sign up for FREE Teleclass on Friday (TOMORROW)
Visit http://www.beyondhorizoncoaching.com/dec08.html for details and registration
* You must register to receive Bridgeline phone number and access code
Hope to see you there!
Labels: learn to say no, priority, time management, work life balance
