Sunday, April 27, 2008
Learn Coaching, Save Tibet
Julia Stewart, founder of School of Coaching Mastery, is offering a special opportunity to take her Coaching Groundwork program, with a small donation ($20 minimum) to International Campaign for Tibet. The 8-hour Coaching Groundwork program normally costs $200 and covers 8 fundamental coaching skills. This special presentation of Coaching Groundwork meets 3-5 PM Eastern/NY Time, April 28, 29, 30 & May 1 (Monday - Thursday). You will receive workbook and recordings too.

It's a great win-win for anyone who would like to learn fundamental coaching skill sets while making a difference. For details and registration, visit Julia's website.

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Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Someone Who Holds Your Vision
When we set out to achieve a goal, go after a dream, or start a new project (for example, a new business), we usually have a vision of the ideal outcome and/or the purpose. It's important to get very clear about your vision, and share it with someone who believes in you and supports your vision. I've always stressed the importance of protecting your dream from the "doubters" and nay-sayers, and surrounding yourself with people who are positive and supportive of your dreams and goals. Sharing your vision with someone who really "gets it" is like buying an insurance. When you encounter roadblocks on your way to success and feel discouraged, having someone who holds your vision and supports you, could make all the difference between giving up and arriving victoriously at the finish line.

A professional life or business coach can help you crystalize your vision and goals, push you out of your comfort zone, create action plans, hold you accountable, keep you motivated, and cheer you on, until you reach your goals. A good coach would also help you recognize and leverage your strengths, and remind you when you forget. Recently I coached a fellow professional coach who told me he was thinking of finding another job, because he felt so overwhelmed by several business, personal and financial issues. I was quite surprised to hear that since this is a seasoned, successful coach who brings in a 6-figure income from his coaching business. He's got the intelligence, professional knowledge & skills, years of experience, and a heart of gold. This is a guy who has a proven track record that he can make things happen against all odds. If he were to quit, I don't know who else could make it. After acknowledging and validating his situation & feelings, I told him what I saw as his strengths and reminded him of his past success. Then, I reminded him of his vision for his coaching business (and for this particularly challenging project), which he had shared with me before. Once I helped him re-affirm his vision and commitment, he was back to his old self again. Then, we were able to move into action steps he could take for the coming week.

Imagine if he had no one there for him, at his weakest moment, what would've happened? If this happened to you, who could you turn to?

If you have a professional life or business coach in your corner, congratulations! You've got a great advantage. If hiring a coach is not an option for you, you could also get the support you need from a mastermind group, a mentor, or a friend or family who could hold your vision for you and hold you accountable. If you belong to a mastermind group, I hope you share your vision with your group, and let everyone know the kind of support you need. Remember, the key to getting what you want, is to ask for what you want. 

It's an amazing feeling to have someone who believes in you and your vision. Knowing that someone believes in your and thinks highly of you, makes you want to try harder and be the best you can be. When the going gets tough, that might be just the thing that gets you through the dark night before dawn.

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Monday, April 14, 2008
Powerful You Denville Meeting This Wednesday April 16

You are invited to be a part of this transformational event! Come make powerful connections with amazing women!

Powerful You! Women's Network Meeting
Wednesday, April 16
12:00 - 2:00PM
Meetings are held every 3rd Wednesday of the month
at 17 On Main Restaurant in Denville, NJ
www.17mainrestaurant.com


Topic: A Holistic Approach to Stress Management

Physical, emotional and dietary stresses in our everyday lives profoundly affect how we feel and the way we live. The good news is that you can use your mind and body to minimize each type of stress (including quick stress reduction exercises and dietary improvements) to optimize the qualify of your life.

Speakers:

Arlene Rich, Advanced Clinical Hypnotherapist, www.SpiritualAwakening.com
Loann Simon, ACE Certified Personal Trainer and Nutrition Specialist, www.SpiritualAwakening.com

To learn more about Arlene, visit:
http://powerfulyou.com/Speakers/Arlene_Rich.htm
To learn more about Loann, visit:
http://powerfulyou.com/Members/Loann_Simon.htm

P.S. Our original guest speaker Dr. Jodi Dinnerman had to cancel her presentation due to an emergency. Arlene and Loann graciously agreed to fill in at last minute. Thank you SO much, Arlene and Loann!!

Powerful You! is designed for women to create lasting business and personal relationships and to assist other women in business and in life. Join us for a powerful way to celebrate your success! Cost is $25 members; $35 non-members, lunch buffet included. Must RSVP.

To RSVP and for more information, please visit: http://powerfulyou.com/Network_Meetings/Denville.htm or call Denville Chapter co-facilitator Hueina Su at 973-664-0446.

P.S. My co-facilitator Christina will be enjoying a fabulous Caribbean cruise vacation during this meeting. Bon Voyage Christina!

Below is a coupon for your FIRST-EVER Powerful You meeting. Come be a part of the fastest growing National Network of Women... We invite you to bring your friends & associates!

To join Powerful You, visit: http://powerfulyou.com/Membership_Options.htm

Hope you can join us!

Joy & Blessings,
Hueina

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Wednesday, April 09, 2008
Don't Miss Randy Pausch The Last Lecture on ABC Tonight
Happy Wednesday!

There is a very special program on TV tonight. I encourage you to tune in.

THE LAST LECTURE: A Love Story For Your Life
Randy Pausch with Diane Sawyer
Wednesday Night April 9th
at 10/9c on ABC

Randy Pausch, a 47-year-old computer science professor at Carnegie Mellon University, has terminal pancreatic cancer.

Last September, Pausch said good-bye to his students and the Pittsburgh college with one last lecture called "How to Live Your Childhood Dreams", on his life's journey and the lessons he's learned. The Wall Street Journal called it "the lecture of a lifetime".

You can watch this unforgettable lecture at the link below. Just make sure you get the Kleenex ready before you begin....

http://abcnews.go.com/gma/lastlecture

"I've never understood pity and self-pity as an emotion. We have a finite amount of time. Whether short or long, it doesn't matter. Life is to be lived." -- Randy Pausch

Live your life to the fullest. Every day counts. Don't wait until you get a devastating diagnosis or something tragic -- start TODAY.

If you would like me to help you get clear about what you really want out of YOUR life, and design a step-by-step blueprint for you, please email or call me right away. We'll have an initial conversation and get you started!

Joy & Peace,
Hueina


P.S. If you would like to learn how to achieve your full potentials, I highly recommend that you consider the Life Potentials Training, hosted by iPEC Coaching, which is one of the foremost coaching schools in the world and the coaching school I attended. This 3-day life-mastery training is for anyone who would like to tap into his/her unlimited life potentials, and live a joyful, fulfilling life. When I attended this program as part of my coaching certification 4 years ago, it was truly a life-altering experience. And, guess what, I'm going to attend the Life Potentials Training again this weekend, and I can't wait!

For more information about Life Potentials Training and The Law of Being, click here.

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Tuesday, April 01, 2008
The Key to Getting What You Want
One of the most important keys to success is knowing what you want (your goals). In coaching, I often see people who either are not clear about what they want, or, not sure about how to get it. Having a clear intention and goal is the very first step. It's important to know not just what you want, but WHY you want it. You might need to do some soul searching to have that clarity. A professional life coach can help you with that. Knowing WHY you want a particular goal will help you stay focused and persevere when you hit a roadblock.

Once you are clear about what you want, it's time to come up with an action plan to move you toward your goals. It's helpful to have a mentor, colleague or a life coach to brainstorm with you, give you guidance, and offer resources. Another effective strategy is using a mastermind group to help you achieve your goals.

A mastermind group, by definition, is a group of like-minded people sharing common goals. As with one-on-one coaching, a mastermind group also offers accountability and support for the members. I have written several posts on using mastermind group for personal and business success. Evan Carmichael's Mastermind Group Resources blog is a great resource to check out.

There are many ways you can use a mastermind group to help you achieve your goals. Today I'd like to focus on one specific key to getting what you want, and that is, asking for what you want. It sounds so simple and common sense, but, you'd be surprised that many people don't ask for what they want, or don't know how to ask for what they want.

People don't ask for what they want for many reasons. Maybe they don't know exactly what they want (lack of clarity). Maybe they are afraid of being judged, ridiculed or rejected. Maybe they don't want to "impose" on or burden others. Maybe they are afraid of appearing to be pushy or needy. We sometimes assume that if we ask for help, others will think of us as inadequate or incompetent. The truth is, most people want to be helpful to others, and they will happily help you if only you would ask for it. In my previous post The Gift of Receiving, I pointed out that, by asking for help, you are actually giving the person a gift, because he/she gets to experience the great feeling of giving/helping someone else. All you have to do is ask.

I remember almost 20 years ago, when I attended the Landmark Forum and the Self Expression and Leadership Program, one of the assignments was for us to make an "unreasonable request". We did it over dinner break, and over the weekend. That was an eye-opener. Most people came back to report that they thought they were making very unreasonable requests, and were fully prepared to be turned down. Instead, they were amazed that they got what they wanted. Obviously, some of these so-called "unreasonable" requests were not so unreasonable, after all.

If you don't like the idea of asking for help, substitute the word "help" with "support". We all need a support system. As human beings, nobody can survive without the support from others. It's completely healthy and essential to ask for the support you need, in both your personal and professional lives.

Coming back to mastermind group. It's important to let your group know exactly what your goals are, and what kind of support you need from them. Perhaps it's weekly accountability check-in and encouragement; perhaps it's certain type of leads; or perhaps it's specific tools or resources for your project. Let your group members know what you need, and set up the structure (e.g. weekly check-in calls, accountability buddy) that supports your goals.

I found this wonderful mastermind resource at Mary Robinson Reynolds Make A Difference site. At her site you can find inspirational movies (I highly recommend them) and other resources, including MasterMinding. She listed "7 Steps to the MasterMind Connection". They are:

1. I SURRENDER ordinary thinking.
2. I FOCUS my intention to be open to all possibilities.
3. I DECIDE differently. Within and without, I call all things past, all things present, all things future, a success.
4. I KNOW that, when two or more minds come together in the spirit of harmony, peace and good will, the accomplishment of my goals, dreams and desires will be intentionally created through this alliance, to bring about easy effectiveness, energy and good to all.
5. I ASK my partner's support in seeing and believing for me what I really want.
6. I ACCEPT and receive all that I am aligned with.
7. I DEDICATE myself to be of maximum service to those around me, to be a living example of what humanity can be and to practice "harmlessness" in generating peace, love, harmony and good will in my world. I am grateful and relaxed … and so it is.

Mary has written a complete script that you can use, and instructions of how to use this MasterMinding process. You can use it with another person, or with a mastermind group. As Napoleon Hill wrote, “No two minds ever come together without thereby creating a third, invisible intangible force, which may be likened to a third mind.” It is in this "third mind" that possibilities thrive.

Whether you use this MasterMinding process or something else, the point is, to get what you want, you've got to ask for what you want. It's something that's worth trying in your next mastermind group meeting, and in your everyday life.

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